Except Not So Much With the New Preschool

Thanks, everyone, for the wonderful good vibes about preschool.  I don't think I've replied to a single comment because, unfortunately, all the good vibes in the world did not help, and I've been a little busy with all the being called to take children home and Serious Conversations and such.  The first day did NOT go well.  Really not.  Really.  Not.

I need to decide how much of this I can blog.  Mom, don't freak out, we're dealing with it.  I'm in that place right now where you want to spill your entire guts to the entire internets, and then you regret it and they don't respect you in the morning and its there on bloglines and the wayback machine and there's no unsaying.  We're just in a kind of intense place and it's one of those places where it could turn out to be something that we deal with as a major feature of the rest of our lives, or it could be something where you look back 10 years from now and say "damn, four-and-a-half was a bitch, huh?  We sure were stupid for changing schools, changing part-time at-home mommy/primary caregiver, and tearing down our house at the same time, huh?"

I honestly don't know which it's going to be, and that's not for lack of thinking about it.  I had some bad moments last week, but I'm a bit calmer now, and I figure we'll work it out one way or the other.  Whatever that means.  Forgive me for not being more specific.  It's not too terrible, but it's terrible enough that we're seeking help.  We had actually already started seeking help, but now we're on a different schedule.  I suppose that'll give you a sense.

This whole optimistic-positivity thing isn't easy for me, as I say through gritted teeth: "GLASS. HALF. ...FULL!"  But seriously, we have everything we need to navigate this whole thing, and in the end, well, I think we'll be okay.  But any good vibes you got, well, keep 'em coming.  I'll try to keep sending up smoke signals the knit signal (thanks Wendy), and I'm hoping things will look brighter soon.  Plus there's a fireplace (unattached) in our living room, and that's just a sign of good times to come.

Comments

[Jenny]

Um, if it's one of those early intervention developmental evaluation things, email me - it's what I do and I can fill you in and walk you through it and translate all the technojargon that they sometimes use.

It'll be okay. Go knit something simple and have some wine. And some chocolate. And ride your bike.

[Bookish Wendy]

Good vibes being sent your way! Put up the knit signal. ;)

[moiraeknittoo]

I am ze confused, but will be sending good vibes your way for sure!

[Diane]

You and the kids will be fine. Remember, you know your children best, not some "expert" who has only seen them for a few minutes.

Hang in there and I sure hope I get to meet you at Rhinebeck!

[Marcy, Not Blogless]

Oh, you poor peoples. This is hard stuff. Just remember to breathe liberally and apply a little wine now and then, and you'll be fine. And the glass IS half full, you know. :D

[Angela]

I feel your vibe from here! Going through something similar (it sounds like) with my 3.5 year old. Cried, been through teachers, changed schools, and more and more and more. Feel free to talk to me! I've been around the block a time or two.

[--Deb]

I can't give you anything solid, but I am sending you hugs!

[Katy]

So.Sorry.
Clinical social worker here, as needed for venting and/or bouncing of thoughts.
Also an empathetic mama who has lost her sanity at various phases.
Thinking of you!

[Laurie]

Vibes being sent your way. With the energy you are putting into it, the repercussions have a small chance of repercussing.

[Bethany]

We learned pretty early that no matter what they say, the school/daycare does what's in *their* best interest... and you're the only one truly looking out for your kid. Do what you need to... good luck! We start preschool tomorrow-- same school, one of the same teachers, a lot of the same kids... hopefully will be smooth.

[Jessica]

We did the exact same remodel-parent returning to the workforce after a year and a half-start a new school thing with my younger son and had a very rough start to the school year. Big brother also started kindergarten so everyone was nuts. I feel for you. If it's good to hear, my youngest just started kindergarten and so far there have been no tears or problems.

[Carrie]

Good luck and good vibes.

[Lee Ann]

Oh sweetie. I'm sorry. You know where to find me if you want to unload. Been there, worried like hell through that. Much love to you and whole famdamily.

[Mel]

Well, you told enough to make it sound very un-fun. Still, having been through all the upheaval I had last year, I know that it can be survived. And I'm sure that you shall, too.

[Thorny]

Oogh. Good luck to you all, and I hope things come to a good resolution for everyone, whatever that resolution may be.

Do let us know if there's anything we can do!

[Emma.]

Everything will be fine. You have beautiful,bright children. Sometimes little people aren't quite ready for all this growing up and moving on when people think they should be. They'll get there in time. Just love them,each other and yourself and it will all be o.k. Ask me how I know !

[Julie]

For me it was the youngest in middle school. Hang in there and I'll send you all the good vibes I can get my hands on!

[mamamarta]

hang in there. i'm keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers. let's talk soon.

xoxox

[Cassie]

I'm sending very very good vibes out (although the post is all roundabout and mysterious, I totally understand the not putting everything out in public thing - totally). The house will be great, and its definitely something to look forward to. My mom is a different person now that her major remodeling is done (and the house is more than lovely, its amazing). It all calms down eventually.

[PumpkinMama]

Oh man, I was actually thinking of you and the kids and preschool yesterday, I almost even sent an email, as I was wondering how your week was. Now I know. Hang in there, if you wanna vent, I'm by the PC and kidless today....

[Lisa]

My thoughts are with you and I know everything will turn out ok. It sounds like you are doing what you can - which is a good thing. Hang in there. I'm sending you hugs and good thoughts and if you need anything, please don't hesitate to ask!

[~ danielle]

lurker de-lurking... I'm so sorry you're struggling. I get a headache just reading what you are all going through right now, some HUGE transitions. I hope you get some answers and the road starts to smooth out a bit for you very soon.

[wix, also married to a roller-coaster-phobic]

Oof. I hope that whatever has gone terribly wrong is better (or at least resolved) soon.

I know I'm late in saying this, but I loved the pic of R. on the roller coaster. She looked like she might have been accidentally having fun!

[Carole]

Dude. You know how to reach me.

[Deborah C.]

OOF. I hate those meetings, been there, done that with my eldest. We had the move 1200 miles away from the support net/change teachers 3 times, then change schools nastiness happen when she was 2 and she did not react well at all. And has been said here, the school wants what's good for THEM, not necessarily what's good for your kids. Good vibes your way, I'm thinking good thoughts for all of you. It will work out, and if you need a shoulder just e-mail me.